When Maya was three months old we took her to a children's birthday party. Back then she wasn't even on solids but upon leaving she was presented with a lolly bag.
Last year I took Maya to a first birthday party where the birthday girl was not allowed to eat any cake, lollies or chocolate. But upon leaving Maya was given a lolly bag.
We then went to a third birthday party where the birthday boy was on a strict, organic only diet - no dairy, no wheat and definitely no lollies or chocolate. But when leaving Maya was given a lolly bag.
I have no problem with Maya eating lollies but they are a special occasion food not something we keep at home or want to bring home. By giving us lolly bags (that I can't refuse because once Maya has seen it she wants it) means we then end up bringing lollies home to eat. And honestly Maya would be happy with anything you gave her anyway. Why not apples? Or mandarins? Why lollies?
And why do people feel obliged to give children a 'present' of lollies anyway? I remember growing up I did receive lolly bags from some parties but it's not like that's the only reason I was there. I enjoyed the party, the food and the atmosphere and the lolly bags weren't important to me.
And when you as the parent are providing a venue, food and other party items, why are you then obliged to give every child a 'present'? Aren't you already providing enough with the party alone?
It reminds me of weddings too where the bride and groom provide their guests with gifts. Does anyone go to a wedding expecting and wanting gifts? I certainly don't. I go to weddings to celebrate the bride and groom getting married. Why do people feel obliged to give gifts when they are already paying for each guest to attend their wedding?
And honestly the gifts are generally something the bride and groom have tried to spend minimal money on. Usually cheap chocolate or some cheap ornament with the bride and grooms names engraved on it. Does anyone actually want or enjoy these gifts?
Providing me with a venue, time, space, other people, food and drinks (and not having to do anything other than turn up) is enough of a 'gift' for me.